The optimist sees the donut, the pessimist sees the hole
There are 12 Universal Laws.
You may or may not have heard of them. You may or may not believe in them, but the truth of the matter is that, like gravity, these laws are at work whether you know about them or not, and whether you believe in them or not.
Today, in our quest to
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I want to introduce you to The Law of Polarity.
This law states that everything in the Universe has an opposite. For every “good”, there is a “bad”. Every “up” has a “down”. Every “left” has a “right”, every “inside” has an “outside”. Think, “Yin and Yang.”
Why am I bringing this up?
Because, today we get to the first “P” in our B.E _ H.A.P.P.Y – acronym.
P – Perception
We are all familiar with the famous Wayne W. Dyer quote:
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
But is it really that simple? And, moreover, how on earth do we actually do that?
Most of us have been through times where we found ourselves feeling stressed, worried, anxious, depressed, angry, negative, scared, or any host of other unproductive thoughts or emotions. It’s human nature. Our amazing brain decodes stimuli from our environment (including sights, sounds, smells and other people) and sends messages based on what we experience, to our Limbic System, where our emotions take place, deep inside the brain.
Our emotions directly impact our thoughts – and it is impossible to control our emotions.
Now hear me out…
I have sat through many a training where the speaker would carry on about “the power of positive thinking” and all that jazz, but if you take a really close analytical look at yourself, we can control or manipulate our conscious thoughts to be “positive” for an extremely limited time only.
Change Leadership Guru and Chief Architect of The ChangeCreator Formula , Author, Speaker, Master Trainer, Consciousness Coach and Ontologist Stanley Beckett , clarifies this beautifully in his Bestselling book “LIFTOFF – The Secret Keys to Launching Your Goals”, so I won’t go into detail here (I strongly encourage you to read that book – you can get it on Amazon).
What it comes down to, is that the way we feel, determines how we think about any particular situation.
If you drive a car, you’ve most likely been in a situation at least once where you got cut off in traffic or someone drove like an idiot and you had to stand on your brakes. What was your first and immediate, impulsive emotion? Anger? Fright? And what was your immediate thought following the sudden emotion? Was it a friendly thought? Or an angry, or fearful thought? “Moron!” “Omg I almost died”… you get the point. Once you are safe, perhaps you have managed to calm yourself down and think calmer thoughts, but your immediate reaction to the situation was spontaneous, uncontrollable negative emotion. And the immediate negative thought correlated with the emotion and popped into your head unchecked.
The Law of Polarity helps us understand the difference between positive and negative thoughts so that we can change thoughts we don’t want, into thoughts we do want.
Knowing that everything in the Universe has an equal opposite, it is only logical that it is impossible to create one without creating the other. Furthermore, you should know that everything is created at exactly the same time.
Has it ever happened to you that you found yourself in an extremely difficult situation, or had a horrible experience, but a few years later you look back on the event and are actually able to realize that some good came of it.
In hard times, as humans we to focus only on the bad. But now, in hindsight, can you see that the good that you were able to perceive when looking back years later, in fact already existed simultaneously along with the bad? You were just so busy focussing on the bad at that time, that you simply did not see the positives just then. You were only able to acknowledge and appreciate the positives once the situation had passed.
Now here’s the empowering thing!
Now that you know that both the good and the bad are created and exist at exactly the same time is, it is entirely possible to focus on both at the same time.
Any time you find yourself in a challenging situation, go and write down 20 good things about the bad thing that happened. This can be really tough at first, but make yourself focus on the other side of the situation. What would the future you, 3 years from now, be saying about the situation? Be that future-you for a few minutes and “look back” on the good that came from your present challenges. Write that down. BS yourself if you must.
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.
Irving Berlin once said: “Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it.”
We can’t control everything that happens to us, but we certainly can control how we look at it and what we choose to focus on.
Keep an eye on your mailbox for my next letter – I will be teaching you how to do that very effectively.